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Saturday, April 28, 2007

2 weeks.

it was the time past since my maternal Grandpa died.

The declaration announced on Saturday night. He was pronounced dead.

D-E-A-D.

The similar moment took my soul away. It was the same way i watched my paternal Grandpa passed away. One at the community home, the other right at home.

He died.

There wasn't a need to say anything more. What could necessary be done would be when he was still alive. The next was obsolete. i reached out for his body, took his hands, touched his chest and felt his forehead. He was already turning cold, less the brain and the heart areas where his organs began to fail.

He left a body, cold behind. That body was useless. It ain't moving. The breathe of God wasn't present anymore. It laid lifeless. Grandpa couldn't have done anything.

Life is short.

That showed me how drastic living people were. What a pathetic life we're living. Do we live for a meaning? OR simply breathe for the living? A heart warmed body like ours while useful are we making gd use of it? OR do we want it cold before we realise it's too late to do anything?

I'll make it a point to hug my loved ones from now on when i have the chance to. My parents, my bro, my baby, my community. While we still breathe, Love.

What grievance can you not release and what sins can you not forgive until you see your loved ones or friends past away before your very eyes? Must there be a closure before one can close his case?

Insanity.

As he thought he could enjoy his life with the family, cancer struck. One entire year of suffering before his eyes could finally shut forever. I told da that grandpa's suffering finally came to an end but to my spirit, it only just began. His salvation was lost. I almost lost myself in that moment. I held my tears, restraint my emotions. There wasn't anything i could have done then, even if i could was when he still breathes.

I blamed myself. Couldn't have told anyone how i felt. It was ironic. i felt the pain inside but i simply numb it.

Strong everywhere is strength nowhere.

To the living, live on.
vinchia watched a sunset at 12:41 AM


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Monday, April 23, 2007

After two weeks of course, finally got the chance to be out with darling girl.

Went to east coast to admire the stars with the love bread that gal prepared...ham and all! thanks gal!

Went out to marina square the following day and recce out a new place to eat! she had salmon spag and i had baked pasta with rice. I tell you, the food is tasty and with a fantastic rich taste! although out time together was really short, i guess its a time well spent!

remember our date for phantom of the opera this coming sat k dear?

Be missing you while i'm back on course!

Loving you!...
vinchia watched a sunset at 6:11 AM


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Wednesday, April 11, 2007

This week commences the start of Company Tactics Course. It started off with leadership package and lots of skills comprising it. Took time out to catch up with baby girl to see if everything is going alright.

I can't wait to share and derive some models for our leaders to adopt. Yes, i am totally enthusiastic. Leadership is amazing. I've gone through the package before and its the second time with added materials. Tho' its a drop bomb knowledge and instigation, it certainly left me with inspirations i could channel it to our leaders.


From Learning Principle Leadership to Practising It

Leadership is about learning principles and making it practical and application to their nature of job and daily challenges. Priciples and models assist them in making decisions and a leader would have to choose the best fit for his situation. Knowledge claims credibitlity in leadership and none can say a leader is speaking without basis.

In the Bible we read, "faith without work is dead". Having that trust in the chosen model does not prove anything. A leader must be willing to try the model out and see if it works. Any men or member could throw in the towels and say, "this won't work at all dude. give it up, on yourself and on us". That WON'T work out for a leader. He/She shouldn't take it as final as of yet. If he deems fit and follow through with his guiding priciples and values, see if it could impact further. If not, choose another one and make it best fit. A member or easy going person will conveniently put a period and full-stop to a problem. Leaders don't see problems, they see challengers.

Understanding the mental model and the ladder of inference helps you to analyze how a person is thinking and constructive communication and criticism is very much welcome. Americans are very good at this and Asians ought to speak up and dare to communicate. The art of questioning and analysis gives a leader an edge. Being a leader, saying good is NOT enough. What is good? Generic answers are not good enough. Generic questioning is redundant.

Reflect the following questions we like to ask:

"how was your week?" - "ok lor", "good lor", "not bad lor"(generic questioning inspires generic answering! duh!~
"everybody doing ok?" - "yar", "sure", "same lor", "ok"(does it really matter?)

Try this:
"it is yet another week of which i believed everyone had different experiences. i didn't have a good one tho'(negative but words used positively. imagine "i had a bad one"-once you finished yours no one dares bring theirs up) but before you guys could get mine, let's randomly share what's jubilant and less smiley"

"what's up with that excitment?!(stirs energy) there must be some updates about our life! who cares to share first? I'll love to go first!"

Would you then get answers like before dude? Would your members still be quiet? if yes, be flexible and choose another model to best fit..Yo man! Where's the energy? Are you simply too old to be young? Communicate yo!

Therefore,

LEADERS SEE THE CONNECTIONS.


Inputs Derived from Corporate Strategy

There are 6 inputs as shown in the diagram but if you learn a lesson from the above, this is not a ultimate model. Unless it fits into your situation, if not, adjust and be flexible. We might not have all systems up, but hey, these are generic stuff to consider. In business, this works the same. Notice "team management, individual coaching". i deem this point valid and with great importance.

There are three basic kind of positions; Coach; Mentor; Counsellor. See, if we understand the true meaning of the above three positions, the word counsellor is often used loosely. A counsellor is certified and professional. We often go, "oie! go counsel your member leh..". Does that make anything or anyone credible?

Mentor is someone not directly under the same roof of your job but housed in the same place. Often, a mentor shares and speaks subjects apart from your job.

Coaching is the word. Coaching bring a person from point A to B. Using simple and guided skill, a coach often aids the coachee to develop himself by assisting him to understand himself and reach for an attainable goal agreed by both of them.

Leadership comprises guiding principles and individuals/corporate to anchor on their values. Values are measurement of the vision. Whenever you realise you're moving away from your vision, when in doubt, that is the time where your values will come to work. Since values ought to be anchored, to reach a decision fast and effective wouldn't take much of a time. It helps you eliminate the time to go round robin and ubin to search for "unfound" answers.

Therefore,

LOTS OF WORK TO DO.(don't worry, we'll get there)


Leadership: the leader always sets the trail for others to follow

Not everyone will follow a leader intially though. He is bound to face opposition-no matter how. A sound vision will set people moving. This is covered during Leaders Meet. Those who weren't there, manz, it's so important! VISION!

I'd like to quote some stuff i learnt of which will set you really thinking. The two points are relating to the mental model, ladder of influence and left hand column practices. I probably share more if you'd care to learn. You will find it wise and inspiring...

Insanity; doing the same thing over & over again and expecting different results. The world we live is a produtc of our thinking; it cannot be changed without changing our thinking.
-Albert Einstein

We share responsibility for creating the external world by projecting either a spirit of light or a spirit of shadow on that which is other than us. Either a spirit of hope or a spirit of despair. Either an inner confidence in wholeness and integration, or an inner terror about life being dieseased and ultimately terminal. We have a choice about what we are going to project and in that choice we help create the world that is, Consciousness Preceeds Being.
- Parker Palmer
"heading from within"
Honour to serve.
vinchia watched a sunset at 1:55 AM


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Sunday, April 08, 2007


Loving & Missing you...

Last Fri went blading with baby and rachel at East Coast.

Fantastic weather, great sun and sea!

Manz, am i surprised to know she can blade so well! Well done baby!

Taught them circling and these girls were good!

One of the weirdest thing we realized 1hr 45mins later was passing by almost every cyclist.

That means we were going rather fast. After much thought, the traffic was slow instead. haha..

Manz, fell twice. Got grazed on the arms and slighly scratched on the face. One incident i tipped while speeding and another, learning how to air lift.

Not embarassed tho'. Wasn't bothered by the peeps.

So, got up and resumed speed. Manz, wanna get race blades. $300-$500 range. too ex..loving the thrill..

After review did i realise baby din't even fell once! haha.. amazing for a girl manz! who knows one day ul be thrilling the speed with me!

The girls had one thing totally in common-to stop is to hug the tree or blade on grass. "Brakes" weren't in their dictionary...totally hilarious yo!

While blading, baby mentioned the blades were slanted to only realise she din't tighten her lower shin blade strap..haha..

its really fun..loads of fun..simple fun..next up would be canoeing! Guys! get active yo!

Its gd time away spending time away from work and camp. Gd breather and totally realized these few weeks that being responsible for work ain't the totally sum. The factors of fun, family, r/s, friends and fellowship plays a part too...alright, i'll spend less time at work yo..

Rachel was totally rushing while blading and walking...wanna "tou tai" yo?haha..

The following day would be the offical start of my course. I'm going in with God. Ain't going for any top..just wanna know my work well so my men in future during In-Camp Training won't suffer..Lord, Your advise please..

be missing you baby..
vinchia watched a sunset at 3:30 AM


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Thursday, April 05, 2007


People come and go, it's the good times we choose to savour that moment

Toungues are hot when in a heated situation.


We don't care how it feels, we often lose it.


Usually, learning how to communicate and converse was never an easy task.


Now i see why everywhere needs such capability.


Proper communication eliminates doubt, fears and uncertainty.


It helps one to acheive response, understanding and sense of direction.


It's difficult tho', i do not deny such ability to be of capability.


Expectation is a huge word.


To expect and be expected.


End of the day i guess, let's nv go to the extreme of expecting too much or neither expect.


Let's take it as we need to manage such.


Even when it's anger or disappointment, emotions need to be managed.


All of us have a need to. That helps us communicate better and enjoy every moment of speech.


To me, its lovely to just walk by the beach or cycle in the night of romance, talking just about everything, anything.


In love, in life, in camp, in church, everywhere takes communication.


Its a matter of how.


Observe and improve - each and everytime.


I do fail, my gosh, you sure expect i do! haha... n badly sometimes..
Who dares to claim to be a awesome boyfriend?
Not me...
Anyone?
vinchia watched a sunset at 4:54 PM


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Tuesday, April 03, 2007


it always take two to love, to complete that that shape in our lives...


Enjoying every fond moments...

The time has come.

Next week i'll be gone, but never away from the church, brothers, friends and the one closest to my heart.

It's ok. I'll return in good shape.

The Lord will sustain His ministries and His love for the both of us.

In a short reflection, we've been holding the fort for more than the counts of the finger in one hand.

Yep, time certainly flies.

In every situation, there is always that choice to make whether to build or break yourself.

The world will continue to revolve no matter how vast the extend one's reason to stop may be.

It's all about that behavoir, that attitude.

That choice is ours to choose to remain satisfied and glad or to be unable to face up to the person in ourselves.

As for me, ill remain and sustain the goodness that the Lord had made me to be and continue to live the love song in Him, no matter how strong and brittle my days may be...

Lord, i will testify to love...

Testify to Love
All the colors of the rainbow
All of voices of the wind
Every dream that reaches out
That reaches out to find where love begins
Every word of every story
Every star in every sky
Every corner of creation lives to testify

For as long as I shall live
I will testify to love
I'll be a witness in the silences when words are not enough
With every breath I take I will give thanks to God above
For as long as I shall live
I will testify to love

From the mountains to the valleys
From the rivers to the sea
Every hand that reaches out
Every hand that reaches out to offer peace
Every simple act of mercy
Every step to kingdom come
All the Hope in every heart will speak what love has done
vinchia watched a sunset at 11:20 AM


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My Memories


My lil princess


n my luv..


we r brudders


countless battle


we are for life

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On Sundays we ran...
-Alvin Chia
-Chia Yanda
-Jeremy Poon
-Charity Tan
-Carol Tan
-Rachel Kee
Perhaps one day we'll relive that adventure



Matt 11:12~...until now, the kingdom of heaven has been forcefully advancing, and forceful men lay hold of it.